first published January 5, 2014
You don’t hate the horse because it cannot fly, nor the bird because it cannot pull.
The sea and the sky, the dawn and the sunset, they each have their unique charms. We admire and treasure their beauty without needing to possess them.
And so it is with those we love unconditionally.
To love unconditionally is to love someone’s higher self. To see their pure spiritual being.
Of course, humans are rife with frailties: anger, insecurity, confusion, mistrust, spite, fear, greed, pride, jealousy, a need to control. From these, arise behaviors which may be difficult to tolerate. Thus, it is possible to love someone unconditionally yet not be able to live with them or to remain close to them. Often, too, we find our lives hopelessly entwined with those whom we cannot love.
Do not suffer, thinking one implies or obligates the other.
In other words, true love is unconditional but in relationships there are always conditions. It’s a useful and important distinction.