Originally published Oct 3, 2015
Note: I am in my meditation trance and the first strong image that comes into my head is that of Peter Dinklage, the actor. I think “aloud”, as if speaking to whatever entity is showing himself to me. “Peter Dinklage is very much alive so I know you aren’t him.” I try to push the image aside but he won’t move. He tells me he’s “impersonating” PD to indicate to me that while alive he, too, was a little person.
Then, he tries to give me all kinds of personal information about himself. I didn’t want to hear it because I prefer that all narratives be vague enough so that they could be anyone, anywhere. I believe they have more power that way. But he keeps insisting.
His name was Kenneth B-something and he’d lived in Ohio, and had only just passed on at the age of 58. He tried to tell me more, but I kept “changing the subject.”
Finally, he started to get testy and scolded me: “You don’t want to hear details because you’re afraid that if they don’t check out, your whole ‘talking to the dead’ premise will fall apart, and then what will you have?”
I have to admit, he made an excellent point. Still, it was strange being called out by a dead guy (or possibly just a figment of my own imagination)
He became very argumentative and irascible, which is unusual. Most of the other “spirits” with whom I’ve communicated, have been, well, quite spiritual!
I chalked it up to the fact that (according to him) his death was very recent and perhaps he hadn’t had time to process his life yet. So, I just listened to his story:
I was an accountant. I made a nice living, but I never got married. I never felt the need to find someone to grow old with. I had some serious health issues and I knew I would be lucky if I lived to 60. I’d probably die much younger. I wanted to really enjoy my life and be free from responsibility during whatever time I had.
You have no idea what it’s like going through life as a dwarf. When you are a member of a persecuted religious or ethnic minority, you may be subjected to a lifetime of prejudice and abuse, but at least your own family is the same as you. And you know that somewhere on the planet there are places where there are others like yourself.
This is not so when you are small. I was the only one in my family to have this condition. I was already in my late teens before I met another little person like myself.
Everyone, and I mean everyone, including my own family, couldn’t seem to stop themselves from regarding me as a child. They patronized me, often without awareness. A dwarf is an object of ridicule. Strangers – mostly stupid drunken teenagers – would often come up to me and make rude comments, then run away laughing, as if I were not even a human being whose feelings were worthy of respect.
I presented myself to you as Peter Dinklage because I admire him. He has gravitas which is something no other little person I’ve ever known or seen possesses.
Even though I was an excellent accountant and had many clients, there was always a separation between us. I was “other” and “less than” and forever would be. Even within my own family.
As you might imagine, this created a lot of psychological issues for me, including a deep and painful lifelong sense of isolation.
You might think that this would be a good reason for me to get married and have children. In a family of my own creation, I could finally be part of a welcoming group, albeit a small one, who would accept me as myself. But, as I said, I knew I wouldn’t live to be very old and I didn’t want to burden others with my medical issues.
Also, I never found a woman of my own height with whom I had a strong connection. It’s difficult enough for people of normal height to find someone they can relate to and love. Imagine how difficult it is when that pool of potential mates is so limited. And relationships with normal-size women were too problematic in more ways than I can tell you, not the least of which were those lapses into patronizing behavior.
[I am shown a little woman in what appears to be a road house type bar. She is way over-dressed – too much makeup, too many sequins, a lacy petticoat under her skirt, big hair. She’s dressed for dancing and looks like a real “party girl.”]
That was my girlfriend. She wasn’t especially smart. Honestly, it was hard to have a real conversation with her, but she was fun and she loved sex and. She was as much as I could handle. Or was willing to handle. I wasn’t looking for anything deep. I just wanted company sometimes.
Addendum: At this point, I began to fall asleep. My mind was drifting into dreams (which is very different from meditation.) I asked him if we could pick up the story the following evening, when I’d be better able to focus. (This is something I’ve just learned how to do – to go back in and meet up with a spirit I’ve communicated with in the past.)
I was really very interested in hearing more of his story, more of his life and his lessons, more of those issues he talked about, but I simply couldn’t stay awake anymore.
The following evening, I went right back into my deep meditative trance (which gets easier to slip into the more I do it) and “called” for him.
…to be continued
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